Whispers of Wisdom with Dr. Judith

Some thoughts regarding Anger:

Anger is a secondary emotion – underneath lies the primary emotion:  frustration, regret, disappointment, embarrassment, feelings of rejection, sadness, being misunderstood, among other emotions. The anger is a result of something we have seen or experienced and is often the first expression of what lies underneath.

It is not the true feeling. I have learned to ask myself, “Why am I upset?” Identifying why is key to dealing effectively with my upset.

Am I disappointed no one sees my thoughts in this?

Am I sad and feeling left out?

Did I feel embarrassed in a situation?

Did I lose my cool and now regret doing so?

Did I feel rejected?

It takes a willingness to begin to understand what is going on and to acknowledge what is happening in our hearts before a person can begin to appropriately address the anger piece. Notice, anger is about me and what I am feeling, not the other person. To deal effectively with upset, we must first know why we are upset and then own the feelings as ours. Ownership allows us to begin to deal with our emotions.

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10 Ways to Make Learning Fun this Summer

Summer vacation is still going strong and so should your child’s education. Sure it’s nice to have time off from school, but that doesn’t mean your child should be taking time off from learning this summer. Spending time outdoors on the playground, watching TV and going on family vacations are great, but try to incorporate your child’s education.

Explore new hobbies at the playground, turn the television station to an educational show, or teach them how to be responsible when going on vacation by packing their own suitcase. Did you know teachers spend an average of four to eight weeks every fall reviewing and reteaching material that students have forgotten during the long summer break? But with your help you can remind your child of the skills they were taught last year and incorporate new skills to keep their minds going and prepare them for the upcoming school year.  You don’t have to be feeding them worksheets the rest of the summer, instead, try the following ten ways to make learning fun this summer, courtesy of Great Schools.

1. Grow the biggest zucchini in your neighborhood.

What better way to learn the basics of science and how things grow than to plant your own garden? You can start with seeds or small plants. Talk about what plants need to be hardy: air, water, sunlight and nutrients. Vegetables are especially fun and educational to plant because your child will learn where food comes from and will also get to eat the end product.

2. Clip, paste and write about your family adventures.

A family vacation is a perfect opportunity to create a trip scrapbook that will be a lasting souvenir of family adventures. Collect postcards, brochures and menus from restaurants and tourist attractions. Encourage your child to write descriptions of the places you visited and tell stories about your family’s escapades. Or suggest a scrapbook on your child’s favorite sports team or a chronicle of his year in school. The scrapbook might contain photos with captions, newspaper clippings or school mementos.

Many photo-sharing Web sites, such as Shutterfly or KodakGallery,will help you (for a fee) create professional quality photo books, where you arrange the photos and write captions.

3. Get theatrical.

Young children can make their own puppet theater. Begin by cutting off the finger-ends of old gloves. Draw faces on these fingers with felt tip markers and glue on yarn for hair. Or glue on felt strips to create cat, dog or other animal faces. Then your child can create a story that the finger puppets can act out. For older children, find books containing play scripts for young people (see “Helpful Books” sidebar)and encourage your child and friends to create their own neighborhood theater. They can plan a performance, make a simple stage at the park or on the steps of someone’s home, create playbills and sell tickets.

4. Make chocolate mousse or build a bird feeder.

Toy stores and craft shops are full of kits for making things, from bird feeders to model airplanes to mosaic tableaux. These projects teach children to read and follow directions, and offer the added benefit of creating a finished product. Science experiment books encourage children to observe and ask questions while providing hours of hands-on fun using scientific concepts.

What child wouldn’t be inspired to bake cookies or make chocolate mousse? A cookbook geared for children is a good place to start. Ethnic cookbooks provide an excellent way to explore the food of other cultures, and open up conversations about how people do things differently in other parts of the world. Children are much more likely to eat something strange if they make it themselves.

5. Paint the picket fence, baby-sit or volunteer at a soup kitchen.

Even young children can learn to be responsible by helping to set the table, take care of a pet, clean out a closet, wash the car or paint the picket fence. Ask your child to be your energy consultant and help find ways to conserve energy in your house. Outside summer jobs and community service help children learn to be punctual, follow directions and serve others.

6. Become the family’s junior travel agent.

Half the fun of a trip starts before you get there. Involve your child in the planning by practicing how to use a map to find cities and tourist attractions, and how to estimate distances. If you are driving, work with your child to figure out how many gallons of gas it will take to get there and estimate the cost. If you are flying or traveling by train, check travel schedules and costs.

Research your destination in books and on the Internet. If you are going to a different state, look up information about the state, such as the state flower, state bird and interesting attractions. Have your child write to the state tourism bureau to ask for information.

7. Visit a jelly bean factory or a glassblowing studio.

Whether you are going on a trip far away or staying close to home, seek out places where children can learn how things are made. In San Francisco, you can visit a teddy bear factory; in Arkansas, a glass blowing studio; and in Hawaii, a macadamia nut factory. To learn about some of these options, see our “Helpful Books” tips on this page.

8. Turn a museum trip into a treasure hunt.

Get your children excited about visiting a museum by exploring the museum’s Web site and taking a virtual tour. When you go to a museum, take into account short attention spans and don’t try to cover a whole museum in one day. To make them less intimidating, start in the gift shop and let your child pick out some postcards of paintings or objects on display. Turn your museum trip into a treasure hunt by trying to find those paintings or objects in the museum. Look for interactive exhibits and for periods of history that your child has studied in school.

9. Get stickers, tattoos and comics for free.

Composing a letter helps build writing skills and can be especially rewarding when your child gets a reply in the form of a cool free item. The book, Free Things for Kids, suggests more than 300 places you can write to get such items as stickers, temporary tattoos, comic books, magazines and sports memorabilia. Some of the items cost a dollar or less, but the majority are free. The author has been writing about “free stuff” for years and is considered an expert in the field. The book, updated annually, also includes Web sites to check out for free downloadable software, ezines or other items to send for by mail.

You can help your older child build citizenship skills as well as practice his writing by encouraging him to write a letter to the editor of the local newspaper or a local government official about an issue he is concerned about, such as building a bike path or renovating a local playground.

10. Become an investment guru or a math wizard.

Summer is the perfect time for older children and teens to learn about the stock market and the value of investing. A good way to get started is to investigate publicly held companies that teens are familiar with, such as Apple Computer, eBay, Nike or Tootsie Roll. The Motley Fool “Teens and Money” Web site is devoted to helping teens learn about saving and investing. Your older child might also want to join a Junior Investor program to learn mor

e about the stock market. It is also possible to help your teen get a head start on high school math by doing math puzzles.

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Source: Great Schools

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10 Conflicts Between Parents and Children and How To Resolve Them

Every parents goes through the stress and heartache of communicating with their child, but what parents need to realize is this miscommunication is formed in their own home.To better understand this rationalization and realize there is an effective way to handle conflicts with our children, Your Tango experts weighed in on topics parents most commonly fight about with each other, includingmoney, parenting/discipline, domestic responsibilities and feeling neglected.

Here are the top ten common parent-parent and parent-child conflicts, with advice from experts on how to manage and overcome disagreements about discipline, domesticity other common arguments: 

1. Punishment. Whether young or old, children are always testing limits and playing one parent against the other. Avoid such conflict by sitting down together during a quiet time to establish six to eight key family rules that you then explain in a calm, affirmative manner to your kids. Expect them to repeatedly test whether you are serious about those rules, but respond by telling them firmly “you know what the rules are.”

2. Temper tantrums. Whether it is a toddler temper tantrum or an adolescent fit, your child’s underlying message is that you are denying him what he wants. Dealing with tantrums can often cause one parent to feel guilty or sympathetic and give in, while the other parent gets defiant and angry.

What you need to do is balance sympathy with the educational message that life is full of frustrations because no one gets what they want all the time. Convey to your child the message that it is his/her own problem to overcome, but you will be there to help if he/she wants some advice. Remember that your child is entitled to get from you everything he needs, and a little of what he wants, too.

3. Attention-demanding children. Working parents are often overwhelmed when they come home and immediately have to deal with attention-demanding children. Whichever parent gets home first is eager for the other parent to come home so the kids can be dumped on someone else. The best approach to this kind of situation is to teach your kids that you have a life of your own, and they are capable of doing things on their own.

4. Mess. When parents try to get children to pick up their stuff around the house, they usually use one of two unproductive approaches—nagging the kids, or picking up after them. Instead, when items are not picked up, try “ransoming” the items by putting the items in a box the child can’t access.

The child then has to do a small chore, like taking out the garbage or clearing the dinner table, befitting of the value of the item they want back. Keep collecting and ransoming items until your child understands that they have a responsibility to the larger community in which they live. —The Couples Institute

5. Miscommunication. A lot of tangled communication happens when your child expresses and “tests” out ideas and feelings quite different from your own. When your child says something that sets off alarm bells in your head, resist the natural impulse to point out the flaws in their thinking.

Ask a couple of questions before stating your reaction, but the effectiveness of your questions will depend on how curious and respectful you really are. Your child will know by the tone of your voice and your facial expressions, and if they don’t feel like they are on the witness stand, there is a much better chance that they will listen to your viewpoints. —The Couples Institute

6. Lack of gratitude. A common yet toxic belief among partners is that they shouldn’t have to thank each other for doing chores since they should do them. At the dinner table, in front of the children, express appreciation for something your partner did. You’ll be modeling great values for your kids and helping the marital connection—all at the same time. —The Couples Institute

7. Lack of sleep. When children wake up throughout the night, exhausted parents argue about the best way to get their child back to sleep. Focus on working together in the beginning of the night while you are alert to create consistent nightly rituals for your child that are soothing and loving and that gradually lead to your child falling asleep independently, without you in the room. This way, if he/she wakes up during the night, you know he/she already has the skills to self-soothe. —Carolyn Meyer-Wartels

8. Feeling ignored. Couples catering to the hectic demands of raising children often wind up feeling ignored by each other. To avoid drifting apart, make a daily ritual of holding one another for one minute, no strings attached! This is not always easy when you are feeling hurt or wounded, but researchers say this act alone can release some feel-good hormones that will enhance the good feelings between the two of you. —Carolyn Meyer-Wartels

9. Discipline. To end a discipline war, it is necessary to stop the power struggles and create an atmosphere of mutual respect. In order for discipline to be an effective learning experience it needs to have a natural or logical consequence.

A natural consequence is anything that happens naturally without any adult interference or stepping in to solve your child’s problems. So, if you forget your coat, you get cold. If you don’t do your homework, you get a bad grade.

A logical consequence is one that is designed to teach a lesson or provide a helpful learning experience. For example, if a child continues to hit another child, he is placed in time out. —Judy Helm Wright

10. Whining and crying.  As a parent educator, this is the number-one complaint of parents. It is especially troubling when one parent gives in, and the other tries to be consistent in firm but kind discipline.

This confuses the child about whether you are serious about the rule. By being inconsistent, you are also teaching your child to become manipulative and devious to try to get their own way. Try stating every time: “I am sorry, my ears can’t hear and understand whiny or screaming words. Calm down and talk to me in your respectful voice and I will listen.” This assumes, of course, that you have taught and modeled what a respectful voice sounds like. —Judy Helm Wright

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Source: Your Tango

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Communication Tips for Parents and Kids

Communicating with your child is an everyday challenge, but soon it will get easier (yea right).  So for the time being lets break down a few communication tips to strengthen our feelings of self-worth as we develop good relationships in our family and with others.

Communication tips between a child and parent, courtesy of Kid Source:

  • Teach children to listen… gently touch a child before you talk… say their name.
  • Speak in a quiet voice… whisper sometimes so children have to listen… they like this.
  • Look a child in the eyes so you can tell when they understand… bend or sit down… become the child’s size.
  • Practice listening and talking: talk with your family about what you see on TV, hear on the radio or see at the park or store. (Talk with your children about school and their friends.)
  • Respect children and use a courteous tone of voice. If we talk to our children as we would our friends, our youngsters may be more likely to seek us out as confidants.
  • Catch children and teens being good. Praise them for cooperating with you or their siblings, or for doing those little things that are so easy to take for granted.
  • Use door openers that invite children to say more about an incident or their feelings. “I see,” “Oh,” “tell me more,” “No kidding,” “Really,” “Mmmmhmmmmm,” “Say that again, I want to be sure I understand you.”
  • Praise builds a child’s confidence and reinforces communication. Unkind words tear children down and teach them that they just aren’t good enough.
  • Children are never too old to be told they are loved. Saying “I love you” is important. Writing it in a note provides the child with a reminder that he can hold on to.
  • Give your undivided attention when your children want to talk to you. Don’t read, watch TV, fall asleep or make yourself busy with other tasks.
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Source: Kid Source

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Summer Events for Kids in Grand Forks

Summer is officially in full swing, on and off the baseball diamonds. So be sure to get out your calendars and start circling dates because you won’t want to miss these kid-friendly events going on this summer throughout Grand Forks/East Grand Forks.

4th of July 

What: Sertoma Club Festival and Fireworks on the 4th of July

Enjoy this Family Friendly 4th of July Event filled with kids games, kid Hollywood band, kids parade, GF fire department, watermelon feed inflatables, tattoo artists, opening ceremonies, raffles, fireworks and so much more….

When: Friday, July 4 from 6:30am – 10:30pm

See entire list of events and scheduled times here.

Where: Downtown Grand Forks and on the Greenway

Cost: FREE*

*Event is free to the public, however raffles, food and drinks are extra.

Summer Morning Movies

Photo Credit: Frank Theatres

What: Children movies at the theatre

When: Every Friday, Saturday & Wednesday at 10:30am from June 6 – Aug 13

Where: Rivers Cinema 15

211 Demers Ave
East Grand Forks, MN 56721


Cost: $2/per movie

For show listings and more information visit River Cinema 15 in East Grand Forks or call 218-773-1059.

Red Ray Lanes Bowling

What: Free* Bowling for Kids

When: EVERYDAY from June 1  - Sept. 4, 2014

Where: Red Ray Lanes

2105 S. Washington St.
Grand Forks, ND, 58201
(701) 775-0663

Cost: FREE*

*First 2 games are free to all children. Be sure to register to receive your free games!

Movie in the Park 

What: Watch the stars under the stars with outdoor movies shown at various Grand Forks parks. Bring your lawn chairs or blankets to enjoy family-friendly classics, action, adventure and new releases.



  • June 25:  Frozen at University Park
  • July 15:  Nut Job at Riverside Park
  • July 29:  Little Rascals at University Park
  • Aug. 12:  Lego Movie at Riverside park
  • Aug. 26:  Cloudy w/ Meatballs 2 at Choice Health & Fitness
  • *All shows will begin at sundown

Where: University ParkRiverside Park, and Choice Health & Fitness

Cost: FREE

Family Fun Night 

What: The ultimate neighborhood block party is for all of Grand Forks and is held each year in late July. This fun-filled event includes family games, healthy treats, a parade, face painting, inflated games and more.

When: Tuesday, July 29  from 5:00 – 8:00 p.m.

Where: University Park

Cost: FREE 

Inline Skating Marathon

What: Rollin’ on the River was created by a group of young community professionals seeking to increase awareness of the health benefits offered by inline skating. This event has grown over the last several years, with approximately 230 skaters in the 2011 and 280 skaters participating in the 2012, creating an even stronger presence of skating in the community. The event draws amateurs and international professional skaters putting Grand Forks on the map.

Rollin’ on the River supports not only the promotion of inline skating in our communities, families and children, but is also sharing its proceeds with a greater cause – The Perry Nakonechny Youth Sports Fund, a Grand Forks Parks & Recreation Foundation memorial fund supporting youth programs in Grand Forks.

When: Saturday, August 16th at 7:00 a.m.

Where: Central Valley High School

Cost: See Rollin on the River Website

*Last day to register is Friday, August 15th from 5-8 pm at Choice Health and Fitness, during packet pick-up.

More information can be found here: http://www.rollinontheriver-inline.com

*If you have an event going on in the Valley please comment below and share with the community!

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Kids Safety with Fireworks on the 4th of July

The 4th of July is a great time to gather family and friends for a bbq or campfire as you watch the fireworks blast off, but if you’re also considering lighting the fireworks yourself there are a few safety concerns and risks to be reminded of, such as devastating burns or other injuries, fires, and even death.

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Thousands of people, most often children and teens are injured every year while using consumer fireworks. So it’s always best to be reminded of these precautions to you and your children’s safety.

The Alliance to Stop Consumer Fireworks is a group of health and safety organizations, coordinated by NFPA, that urges the public to avoid the use of consumer fireworks and instead, to enjoy displays of fireworks conducted by trained professionals.

Fireworks by the numbers
  • In 2011, fireworks caused an estimated 17,800 reported fires, including 1,200 total structure fires, 400 vehicle fires, and 16,300 outside and other fires. These fires resulted in an estimated eight reported civilian deaths, 40 civilian injuries and $32 million in direct property damage.
  • In 2012, U.S. hospital emergency rooms treated an estimated 8,700 people for fireworks related injuries; 55% of 2012 emergency room fireworks-related injuries were to the extremities and 31% were to the head.
  • The risk of fireworks injury was highest for young people ages 15-24, followed by children under 10.
  • On Independence Day in a typical year, far more U.S. fires are reported than on any other day, and fireworks account for two out of five of those fires, more than any other cause of fires.
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Source: NFPA’s Fireworks report, by John R. Hall, Jr., June 2013
Source: NFPA’s Fireworks Fact Sheet, Fire Analysis and Research Division, June 2014
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How to Communicate Better with Family Members

No family is perfect and each has its own set of issues. But it doesn’t mean we should stop trying to make things more comfortable at home. The family can be, after all, our closest friends. According to Life Spy, there are effective ways to communicate with our family members, bringing you closer together before it’s too late and you drift too far away.

Communication is the key to being a closer family. Bring the family closer together with these tips.

Always make the family dinner an event. Family dinner is that one time in a day which you should reserve for family time. Keep each other posted on what you’re doing and what keeps you busy.

Schedule family vacation time. The holy week is coming up so there’s a string of non-work days for some.

Help children with homework. If all your child needs is a little guidance, maybe you don’t have to hire a private tutor.

Take the kids along. Why not bring the kids to where you’re going instead of leaving them at home with a stranger?

Watch TV together. Sure, your kids wanna watch cartoons all day and you might also want to watch the news. But compromising on a family show has the power of having the whole family in one couch.

Be sensitive to each person’s sensibilities. Every one in your family has a different personality. Know their character, and respect them so they’ll respect you, too.

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Source: Life Spy 

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How to Set a Summer Routine for Your Child

Summertime is here and so is summer schedules filled with baseball, swim lessons, barbecue’s and many more late nights. But don’t just fill those meals with junk food or spend those extra hours playing video games, instead create a routine around your child’s summer schedule with these helpful tips.

1. Set a Time For Learning

If your kids received home learning packets from their school, or if you’ve picked out a particular workbook you’d like them to complete, set a regular block of time aside each day when they can work toward completing this project. In addition, plan to explore various topics your kids have shown an interest in. Summer is a great time to tap into their natural curiosity!

2. Set a Time for Reading Every Day

This is something that you can do whether your kids spend their days with you or another caregiver. After lunch is a great time to schedule a regular, daily, reading siesta. If your kids are young, read a story out loud to them at this time. Older children can use this time to read on their own. If you can, try to model the importance of reading by picking up a book for yourself at the same time.

3. Limit Your Kids’ Screen Time

The American Academy of Pediatrics recommends that children ages two and older watch no more than two hours of total screen time per day. In order to meet those guidelines, most families have to make a concentrated effort to turn off the TV and limit computer and video games. Talk with your kids about the amount of time that you think is reasonable, and be firm about maintaining those limits.

4. Schedule Chores

Make a list of age-appropriate chores for your kids to do each day during the summer. Combine simple everyday tasks, like making their beds and emptying the dishwasher, with larger, long-term projects like cleaning out their closets. For the bigger jobs, show them how to break the task down into smaller 20-minute chunks.

5. Schedule Your Kids’ Snacks

Of course meals are eaten around a basic schedule, but what about snacks? Personally, I feel like a short-order cook when my kids ask me for snack after snack throughout the day. One way around that issue is to establish two different “Snack Times” in your home. At our house, snacks are served at 10:00 am and 3:00 pm. This way, I don’t find myself going back into the kitchen six to seven times (before lunch!) to fill another request. My kids know, too, that they can have apples or carrots any time of the day – and they can get them themselves!

6. Schedule Some Regular, Fun Activities

Sit down with your kids and make a list of all the places you’d like to go this summer and the things you’d like to do. Then make an effort to systematically go through the list, choosing one or two activities per week.

Summer is a time for fun, but that doesn’t mean it’s also a time to go crazy and lose control of oneself. Maintaining a consistent routine in your child’s life will help manage their behavior and give them balance this summer, preparing them for next fall.

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Source: About.com

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10 Ways to Improve Your Child’s Behavior this Summer

Parenting styles today are a little different than when you were a child, most of us start out parenting the way we were parented and expect our children to react as we did. If the tried-and-true ways of your mother and father don’t cut it with your son and daughter, it’s time to make a change. The ten strategies might help guide you when deciding the best method to improve your child’s behavior.

1. Start with Behavior Analysis

Think of bad behavior as a mystery, a complex whodunnit with clues and motives and red herrings galore. Who’s responsible? What did they do? When, where, and why did it happen? Jumping to the same disciplinary conclusions every time your child misbehaves is like arresting the butler any time there’s a murder to be solved. So become a better parenting detective and find out the real reason behind their behavioral decisions.

2. Use a Behavior Chart

Think your child won’t understand/comply with/care about a behavior chart? If you’re thinking about a traditional chore-for-reward system, you may be right. But with a little creativity, you should be able to come up with a chart or similar motivational scheme that will give your child a reason to be more pleasing’. Tailor to your own challenging child’s needs and wants by creating a customized behavior chart of your child. 

3. Choose Your Battles

“Why does everything have to be such a fight?” That’s something you may have asked your child a time or ten, but it’s a question worth asking yourself, too: Why does everything have to be such a fight? Is every battle you choose worth picking? Focus in on goals that matter and wars you can win and think about which behaviors you can really commit to changing.

4. Count to 10

“One-two-three” may be magic for some kids, but children with special needs may require extra time to do all the strategizing and motor planning it takes to move peacefully from one pasttime to the next. Forcing the issue with a quick three-count will most likely end in crabbiness and bad behavior — and that’s just from you. Try a technique that gives everybody a little breathing room.

5. Keep a Big “Bag of Tricks”

A little distraction is often all it takes to head off bad behavior. Having a constant, and constantly updated, supply of items and ideas to divert your child can make the difference between a whiny, fussy, tantrumy time and a fun, funny, contented one. So start filling your purse or diaper bag with items that reliably captivate or motivate your child. 

6. Set Get-able Goals

It’s not bad to be ambitious for your child, or to have high hopes. But if you’re setting the bar higher on a regular basis than your child can possibly reach, you’re creating a constant experience of failure. Breaking big goals into little ones helps you build on success. Strategize some easy accomplishments to lessen frustration and increase confidence. 

7. Keep Track of Transitions

Transitions are tricky for children with special needs, and for their stressed-out parents, too. Better to think those dangerous changes of activity through beforehand than deal with the inevitable meltdown that occurs after a mismanaged one. Think about allowing extra time, warnings, and compassion as you move your child through his or her day.

8. Say What You Mean

You know your child doesn’t get figures of speech and tone of voice and sarcasm, you’ve advocated for others to be clear in their communication … but when it comes to laying down the law at home, do you sometimes fall into the same traps? Clear communication is more important for you than for anyone. Make sure your expectations are as obvious to your child as they are to you. 

9. Scout Time-Out Spots

Time-out can be an effective tool for kids with special needs, but sending a child to his room when his room is where he wants to be is counterproductive, and not so helpful when you’re at the mall or the store or the park. As with everything else, you’ll need to be creative. Pick one that works for your child or inspires you to brainstorm your own.

10. Keep Looking for a Better Way

If you’ve found a tactic that works for your child, great! Enjoy the feeling of parenting competence while it lasts, because each new developmental change will likely require a new approach. Reading parenting books that deal specifically with special-needs behaviors can bring you a constant supply of fresh ideas and strategies. Get inspirations from experts and parents just like you.

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May is National Water Safety Month


Celebrate National Water Safety Month this May through educational programs, public service announcements, governmental proclamations, dealer and business promotions and the distribution of water-safety-themed materials, aimed primarily at the public. As we prepare for the hot summer months this is a great time to get up to date on all the water safety and tips for adults and children of all ages.

National Water Safety Month gives our community the opportunity to make all Americans more “water aware.” This month specifically encourages you to obtain local proclamations for your city, township, military installation and community associations.

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Feel free to also use the following Free Resources from CPSC’s Pool Safely:

Requirements for Public Pools

Learn more about the P&SS Act—federal legislation mandating new safety standards for public pools and spas. Find out whether the P&SS Act applies to your pool or spa and what updates you might need to make to bring your pool or spa into compliance with federal law. Read more here.

The Virginia Graeme Baker Pool & Spa Safety Act (P&SS Act) defines what pools and spas are considered “public” in the United States and covered by the law’s public pool and spa regulations. Find out whether the P&SS Act applies to your public pool or spa here.

Pool & Spa Safety Equipment

Using appropriate safety equipment is critical to ensuring the safety of public swimming pools or spas. By using equipment that is compliant with the P&SSAct, pool operators and owners provide the highest level of protection for the public. Find the right safety equipment here!

Finding Help & Resources

You can also plan your water safety event using these safety tips, planning advice and requirements.

Click on the link provided for more information on National Water Safety Month. 

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